I’m sure there’s a lot of people out there who ask themselves the same question.
And the answer to that elusive question is one that takes time and careful consideration. Why? Because everyone is a unique individual and we want to make sure we highlight the qualities that distinguishes us from the next person.
So what makes me unique?
A tough reality hit me in my late thirties when I Googled the words anger and abuse. I trembled with fear and my heart felt like it was going to beat right out of my chest when I came to the painful conclusion about my behaviors. I truly experienced the benefits of speaking to a counselor after that awakening moment. She guided me to learn more about childhood abuse and how it affects our mental health as adults. What I also learned were skills that I aggressively practiced and applied daily to reshape my negative beliefs that I was worthless and unlovable. I started to become the potential that others saw and developed self-empowering beliefs that eventually led me to become a public speaker for mental health, an instructor teaching workshops on anxiety and anger and last but not least, an author.
I soon noticed that my friends started opening up the dialogue to me about mental health. Then family members did so as well. Eventually strangers started approaching me with their stories of struggle.
I realized that everyone has a story to share and it’s a matter of finding that delicate space to do that in. I found my voice through my book and blogs which connected with people, especially other childhood abuse and trauma survivors.
I discovered that the majority of abuse survivors have been too afraid to share their stories. Like me, they feared being judged or dismissed. And also like me, it was too painful and embarrassing to talk about. But when I openly shared my story to the world, others realized that they were no longer alone with their struggles.
So, who am I?
Other than being a father to a teenage son, I’m the guy next door who experienced childhood abuse, trauma and family members living with mental health struggles. I learned that lived experiences and a non-clinical perspective are invaluable recovery tools because that’s where the strongest forms of empathy and compassion can emerge.
When I helped others open up the difficult dialogue, I felt they were beginning to break their own barriers, and I learned that I can make a difference. Thus, I began Free the Anger.