Without an ounce of doubt, self-discovery has changed me and the way I think. I thirst for it now because it liberates me from who I was before. My perspective on life has shifted and this gift I was given is an opportunity for personal growth and a healthier wellbeing. Collectively this improves my mental health.
How do you create a healthy set of boundaries? What do boundaries mean to you? Are you a doormat and can't say "No"? Do you often cross other people's boundaries?
"Uncle Jay, what's mental health?" asked 11 year old Nate. I've given a ton of presentations about mental health, so why was it so difficult for me to explain it to him? I knew I had a small window of opportunity here to make a difference to a young mind. Well, here's how I explained it to him...
A little deep thought about what finding peace means to me.
It amazes me how we don't talk more about how anger is related to our mental health. It holds us back from finding happiness. Over the years, I've learned that the key to my struggles with anger, depression and anxiety was that I couldn't accept it. I eventually realized I couldn't sit back and continue to live with it. I boldly concluded that I needed to do something about it.
It's never easy to look ourselves in the mirror and see where we struggle with our behaviors. Yet, when we ask the question whether there's room for self-improvement, the answer is often times a yes. How do we make those changes in ourselves? How do we take those difficult steps? I learned the hard way through my own struggles and losses how to make those self-improvements happen. A life plagued by anger, abuse and mental health struggles, I discovered ways to get out of those unhealthy patterns and into a life that's focused and clear.
For those of us who experienced forms of childhood trauma, it truly is important to engage in more meaningful discussions and understanding of our buried feelings of anger. This allows us the opportunity for healing and ultimately a happier and healthier life.
At the end of the day, celebrities such as Kevin Love are all human beings as well and not immune to mental health struggles. In fact, some may arguably face greater challenges being in the public eye and trying to manage the highs and lows of feeling euphoric and then isolated. Kudos to the role models out there and for their bravery in sharing...
One of my goals is to reach out and connect with men particularly in ethnic communities. I'd like to break the stereotypes and barriers that ethnic men don't talk about mental health. Needless to say, I'm proud to share that I am an Asian male openly talking about my struggles with depression, anger and anxiety.