The feeling of having a healthy supply of self-worth is something I can only imagine might have been more readily available, natural and automatic if I was able to see that in myself as a child. As an adult survivor of childhood abuse, self-worth was not supplied in healthy doses while growing up.
It amazes me how we don't talk more about how anger is related to our mental health. It holds us back from finding happiness. Over the years, I've learned that the key to my struggles with anger, depression and anxiety was that I couldn't accept it. I eventually realized I couldn't sit back and continue to live with it. I boldly concluded that I needed to do something about it.
It's never easy to look ourselves in the mirror and see where we struggle with our behaviors. Yet, when we ask the question whether there's room for self-improvement, the answer is often times a yes. How do we make those changes in ourselves? How do we take those difficult steps? I learned the hard way through my own struggles and losses how to make those self-improvements happen. A life plagued by anger, abuse and mental health struggles, I discovered ways to get out of those unhealthy patterns and into a life that's focused and clear.
One of my goals is to reach out and connect with men particularly in ethnic communities. I'd like to break the stereotypes and barriers that ethnic men don't talk about mental health. Needless to say, I'm proud to share that I am an Asian male openly talking about my struggles with depression, anger and anxiety.
Kindness begins with how we see ourselves. Much of this depends on how we were treated as children. Unfortunately, childhood abuse survivors often grow up as adults who a have hard time seeing themselves with kindness. We don't realize the subconscious voices telling us that we're unlovable, we don't deserve happiness, we're ugly or we're useless.
I can't believe it's already been 1 entire year since I started this blog and it's been a wonderful experience sharing my thoughts, reading others' and learning to be more tech-savvy! Most importantly however, this blog represents my growing understanding of mental health.
One third of Canadian adults have faced some form of childhood abuse growing up. The statistics are likely higher in the US and worldwide which absolutely blows my mind with disbelief.
In light of the recent tragedy that shook the world on October 1, 2017 in Las Vegas, we all must ask ourselves what we can do to prevent such a terrible tragedy from happening again.
I know guys who turn away from the conversation about feelings and mental health. It makes them twitch and feel uncomfortable. It also makes them defensive and they quickly deflect the conversation. I used to be that guy too.