Without an ounce of doubt, self-discovery has changed me and the way I think. I thirst for it now because it liberates me from who I was before. My perspective on life has shifted and this gift I was given is an opportunity for personal growth and a healthier wellbeing. Collectively this improves my mental health.
"Uncle Jay, what's mental health?" asked 11 year old Nate. I've given a ton of presentations about mental health, so why was it so difficult for me to explain it to him? I knew I had a small window of opportunity here to make a difference to a young mind. Well, here's how I explained it to him...
It amazes me how we don't talk more about how anger is related to our mental health. It holds us back from finding happiness. Over the years, I've learned that the key to my struggles with anger, depression and anxiety was that I couldn't accept it. I eventually realized I couldn't sit back and continue to live with it. I boldly concluded that I needed to do something about it.
It's never easy to look ourselves in the mirror and see where we struggle with our behaviors. Yet, when we ask the question whether there's room for self-improvement, the answer is often times a yes. How do we make those changes in ourselves? How do we take those difficult steps? I learned the hard way through my own struggles and losses how to make those self-improvements happen. A life plagued by anger, abuse and mental health struggles, I discovered ways to get out of those unhealthy patterns and into a life that's focused and clear.
For those of us who experienced forms of childhood trauma, it truly is important to engage in more meaningful discussions and understanding of our buried feelings of anger. This allows us the opportunity for healing and ultimately a happier and healthier life.
My teenage son struggles with social anxiety. It's been one of his banes throughout his young life which fuels much of his depression. I believe that those who live with depression, anxiety and other mental challenges are built differently in how they can cope.
One third of Canadian adults have faced some form of childhood abuse growing up. The statistics are likely higher in the US and worldwide which absolutely blows my mind with disbelief.
What does it feel like being an introvert with social anxiety? It's often misunderstood because the struggles are taking place inside our minds, without any physical symptoms.
I know guys who turn away from the conversation about feelings and mental health. It makes them twitch and feel uncomfortable. It also makes them defensive and they quickly deflect the conversation. I used to be that guy too.