It's a sad loss today for those who followed Mr Bourdain but I also want honor those who have taken their own lives and aren't recognized in the media. Too many lives are lost due to suicide and depression, and there certainly isn't one simple solution that's going to end this growing concern.
"Uncle Jay, what's mental health?" asked 11 year old Nate. I've given a ton of presentations about mental health, so why was it so difficult for me to explain it to him? I knew I had a small window of opportunity here to make a difference to a young mind. Well, here's how I explained it to him...
It amazes me how we don't talk more about how anger is related to our mental health. It holds us back from finding happiness. Over the years, I've learned that the key to my struggles with anger, depression and anxiety was that I couldn't accept it. I eventually realized I couldn't sit back and continue to live with it. I boldly concluded that I needed to do something about it.
It's never easy to look ourselves in the mirror and see where we struggle with our behaviors. Yet, when we ask the question whether there's room for self-improvement, the answer is often times a yes. How do we make those changes in ourselves? How do we take those difficult steps? I learned the hard way through my own struggles and losses how to make those self-improvements happen. A life plagued by anger, abuse and mental health struggles, I discovered ways to get out of those unhealthy patterns and into a life that's focused and clear.
At the end of the day, celebrities such as Kevin Love are all human beings as well and not immune to mental health struggles. In fact, some may arguably face greater challenges being in the public eye and trying to manage the highs and lows of feeling euphoric and then isolated. Kudos to the role models out there and for their bravery in sharing...
One of the many things that motivates us as human beings is about making connections and doing things that matter to us. Whenever we do things that have value to us, we have purpose. We strive for a subconscious contribution to something greater than ourselves. We yearn to belong to something and to someone. We want to be valued.
My teenage son struggles with social anxiety. It's been one of his banes throughout his young life which fuels much of his depression. I believe that those who live with depression, anxiety and other mental challenges are built differently in how they can cope.
One third of Canadian adults have faced some form of childhood abuse growing up. The statistics are likely higher in the US and worldwide which absolutely blows my mind with disbelief.
Feeling mood swings can be a normal part of our every day lives. Here's a blog about what I was able to discover this past week.