It's never easy to look ourselves in the mirror and see where we struggle with our behaviors. Yet, when we ask the question whether there's room for self-improvement, the answer is often times a yes. How do we make those changes in ourselves? How do we take those difficult steps? I learned the hard way through my own struggles and losses how to make those self-improvements happen. A life plagued by anger, abuse and mental health struggles, I discovered ways to get out of those unhealthy patterns and into a life that's focused and clear.
For those of us who experienced forms of childhood trauma, it truly is important to engage in more meaningful discussions and understanding of our buried feelings of anger. This allows us the opportunity for healing and ultimately a happier and healthier life.
At the end of the day, celebrities such as Kevin Love are all human beings as well and not immune to mental health struggles. In fact, some may arguably face greater challenges being in the public eye and trying to manage the highs and lows of feeling euphoric and then isolated. Kudos to the role models out there and for their bravery in sharing...
One of my goals is to reach out and connect with men particularly in ethnic communities. I'd like to break the stereotypes and barriers that ethnic men don't talk about mental health. Needless to say, I'm proud to share that I am an Asian male openly talking about my struggles with depression, anger and anxiety.
I can't believe it's already been 1 entire year since I started this blog and it's been a wonderful experience sharing my thoughts, reading others' and learning to be more tech-savvy! Most importantly however, this blog represents my growing understanding of mental health.
I was shocked and disheartened on Monday January 15th when I read about the sudden passing of Dolores O'Riordan, lead singer of the band The Cranberries and one of my all time favorite singers. I can't help but wonder how difficult it must have been for her to live with her challenges, especially along with the highs and lows of stardom. Like anyone living with mental health challenges, regardless of the support we have around us, it can still sometimes feel solitary and isolating.
One of the many things that motivates us as human beings is about making connections and doing things that matter to us. Whenever we do things that have value to us, we have purpose. We strive for a subconscious contribution to something greater than ourselves. We yearn to belong to something and to someone. We want to be valued.
My teenage son struggles with social anxiety. It's been one of his banes throughout his young life which fuels much of his depression. I believe that those who live with depression, anxiety and other mental challenges are built differently in how they can cope.
One third of Canadian adults have faced some form of childhood abuse growing up. The statistics are likely higher in the US and worldwide which absolutely blows my mind with disbelief.